When Children Don’t Want to Perform: How We Support Them in Palma

Many parents ask: “What if my child doesn’t want to perform on stage?” At PAUPA Academy in Palma de Mallorca, we believe every child deserves to feel safe, seen, and supported. Performing should never feel forced—it should grow from a sense of joy and participation.

Understanding Children’s Feelings About Performing

When a student tells us, “I don’t want to perform,” our first response is simple: “That’s okay. We understand how you feel.”

There are many reasons why children might feel uncomfortable performing:

• The audience feels too big.

• They aren’t happy with their practice.

• They feel nervous about being judged.

By listening to these concerns, we show children that their emotions matter.

Why Perfection Is Not the Goal

At PAUPA, our events are not designed around the idea of “perfect performance.” Instead, they are opportunities for students to share their progress in a relaxed and encouraging environment.

Children learn that performing is not about flawless results—it’s about participation, growth, and expression. This perspective helps reduce pressure and makes performing more approachable.

Creating Events Together With Students

One of our most effective strategies is to involve students in creating the event itself. Instead of saying, “You must perform,” we invite them:

“We would love for you to help us create this event together.”

This shift transforms the performance into a shared project. Children no longer feel like they are being put on the spot—they feel part of a community effort. This simple change often removes much of the anxiety.

A Supportive Approach for Families in Palma

In neighbourhoods like Son Cotoner, families want their children to build confidence without unnecessary stress. By designing events that are collaborative rather than competitive, PAUPA helps children:

• Explore performance in a safe and gradual way.

• Feel supported rather than pressured.

• Discover joy in sharing their creativity with others.

This approach respects every child’s pace while still offering the benefits of performing.

Conclusion

Not every child loves the spotlight—and that’s perfectly okay. What matters is giving them space, understanding, and supportive opportunities.

👉 At PAUPA Academy in Palma de Mallorca, we design music, art, and English events where children feel part of something bigger, without the pressure of perfection. Join us and discover how creativity can flourish in a safe, supportive community.